Sunny and Southern Love

Cindy Jay and I :)

While Cindy Jay and I went to Lagoona beach
I found this lovely little piano:)

While staying at the lovely and gracious home of Cindy & Jay Murphy, I had the pleasure of investing a few days time with the two of them as well as their son Dale and their daughter Sarah. With Cindy’s bright red hair and glowing smile she showed me the clash that one has to achieve between being a free and fun loving girl and a dedicated and loving mother. I am not sure if I've ever met such a mother that parents through straight forward logic. Dale, like most 10th graders, is in the stage of his life that is an awkward, growing and experimenting phase. Of course this comes hand in hand with trying as most high schoolers do, to date. She told me about a rough period of time between her and Dale. Every teenager goes through this sometimes with their parents.. Mine involved a whole lot of disrespect and longing for a freedom in which responsibility did not exists. A made up illusion of my years, of course ha, but many teenagers and parents have to go through this rather displeasing stage of their relationship. In the course of Dale and Cindy's, one night she ended a conversation by simply stating to Dale that he would not be able to date for a while, if he can't treat his mother right, there's no hope for any girl being treated right. I admire that logic to hell and back.

Speaking of girls and boys!...I experienced this cutesy awkwardness of teenage confusion at the dinner table my second night. Dale had invited his tall and goofy friend Nathan to join us. I chatted a storm away with Jay and Cindy, every time I talked or LOOKED at Dale and Nathan they got cherry red and giggled. You’d think they were fourth grade girls, first being introduced to the neighbor who grew handsome over the summer. God only knows why. If you thought that giggling, being silent and bright red was a typical GIRL thing, these two goobers could prove your wrong in a half a dinnertime. As dinner went on, Cindy let her thoughts and mouth loose (which is quite an admirable hobby of hers) by spilling the obviousness of poor Nathan being like the TV character Mauge, who simply could not talk to, nor in front of girls. That is until he got a few drinks in him, which enabled him to spill words like a pent up dog spills energy once let free. I never got to see this side of Nathan. But.. I’m sure as time and age comes over him he’ll learn…how to…speak?

Jay is a retired army officer and through his eyes I saw the life of one who was happy with where he had been and where he is now. He loves his entire family very much and the love I could see between Cindy and him was an adorable thing that most married couples these days can not achieve through out their entire marriage. This is extraordinary, simply because the love that one can see as a third party is merely.. joy. I could tell that Cindy and Jay weren’t JUST devoted to each other.. they were crazy about each other! And if you give an oath to spend the rest of your life with someone.. why on earth should it be anyone EXCEPT someone you are crazy for. A simple thing.. happiness is. Yeah, yeah, but your not married’. I can hear the voices that I’ve heard from countless adults in my ears already. All I have to say to people that think being happy with another is some difficult and impossible task which is set upon mankind and is harder to achieve than fighting the dragon that now lives up in the Draconfelds a street away from me… Get over yourselves. Stop thinking you are the exception in the world, that you, can NOT be happy with this person you’ve pledged to be with. Break it. Change it. All you married couples out there, who go to sleep every night and wake up every morning being agitated, stressed and exhausted, sick of arguing, sick of ‘putting up’ with whatever it is you feel is necessary to burden yourself with, you guy need to be happy. Everyone needs to be happy. So start doing it. It’s not that hard. Ask Cindy and Jay Murphy about it, they’ll tell you that being married, in love and happy really isn’t the worlds biggest challenge. It’s probably the worlds best feeling, but it sure as hell is not climbing Mount Everest.